No doubt, the abusive supervisor should be punished. So far, there are no reports of any disciplinary measures taken against the supervisor. Rather, reports say that the intern being abused and the guy who filmed the abuse were both fired over the incident! WTF?

Anyway, what shocked me most was that the 29 year-old intern had to have his parents step into confront the supervisor. Good for the parents. But wait, wait, wait, what? Did I read correctly that this guy is 29 years old?! Or was that a typo, and it should read 12 years old?

Stand up for yourself! Be a man! You’re 29 years-old!

OK, I feel sorry for the “kid.”

I’m not sure what’s more embarrassing–that as a 29 year-old, he got bitch-slapped by a computer nerd repeatedly, or that his parents had to come into the office to speak with “the bully.”

If you know any other guys who need to learn how to ASSERT themselves POLITELY and KINDLY, please refer them to Aura Dating Academy. I capitalize those words because part of the problem is that many Asians equate assertiveness or sticking up for yourself with being mean and nasty. And they think “assertiveness” is the opposite of being polite, nice, and kind. They don’t know how to be both Polite and Assertive at the same time. And in the end, all you get is a lot of Passive-Aggressiveness and Asian Pushovers.

Learn about masculinity and how to be a man in an Asian context at Aura Dating Academy.

Here’s the video:

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I’ve been coaching in Singapore for almost five years now (and worldwide for even longer), and after talking to a lot of skinny guys looking to bulk up, I’ve found the number one problem preventing them from reaching their goal is that they are… LAZY. Yup, how ironic. The skinny guys are lazy. They’re too lazy to do a little research on google on what to eat when bulking up. They’re too lazy to break their old habits and routines, which resulted in their skinny state in the first place, and stop eating tiny meals with little meat at the hawker centres. They’re too lazy to go to the gym, work hard at the gym, and lift heavy weights. They’re too lazy do a little poking around and order a mass gainer (I mean, how lazy can you be if you keep complaining about how hard it is to gain weight but you haven’t even tried a mass gainer?). So a message to all you skinny guys who want to bulk up: Quit your whining and fix the problem.

Here’s an awesome short post recently posted on the Aura Dating Academy online forum. It’s by KN. He’s a military guy. And I love military guys. My dad was an officer in the Taiwan Army and instilled in me a deep respect for people in the military. They know what it’s like to work hard, push through pain, and inspire others. So without further ado, I give you… KN

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So in Aura Apprentice class last week, we got to talking about gaining weight. I said I’d share my experience and here it is.

I’m in the Singapore military, and a while ago, I was sent to train with the US Army. Even more so than the Singapore Army, the US Army is crazy on fitness, so all the guys were real built and cut. At that point in time, I weighed 54kg (~119lb). Goes without saying that I was the single smallest person in the class. Even the US Army ladies were bigger than me.

At some point, I told my Aussie instructor that I wanted to gain 10kg (22lb) of weight. Without being dismissive, he wished me good luck, and told me that was really difficult. Hell, was he right. But I did manage to achieve that target – I came home to Singapore with my weight fluctuating between a lean and muscular 63kg and 65kg (~139lb – 143lb). To cut a long story short, here’s how I did it.

Training:

1. Every morning, we’d do PT at 6. PT (Physical Training) in the US Army is much harder than PT in the Singapore Army, unless you were from a special tactics unit like NDU or commandos. We’d do random crossfit workouts. A sample workout would be the filthy fifty – 50 reps of wall balls (throwing an 8-14kg ball as high against a wall as you could), weighted squats, box jumps, burpees, push-ups, weighted lunges, push presses, and some others I can’t remember.

This happened every single day, besides Tuesdays, even in -6 celsius weather. On Tuesdays, we’d go to the fighthouse where we learnt Modern Army Combatives (which is based on MMA), and we’d roll. Very intensive too, considering most guys weighed 20-30% more than me.

2. In the afternoons, we’d hit the gym. I hung with a black dude (who remains my buddy till today) at the gym. I’d hit the gym 3 days in a row, rest 1, then hit the gym again for 3 days. At that time, my routine consisted of 1 day for chest and tri, 1 day for back and bi, 1 day for legs and shoulders. Nothing spectacular that you can’t find on the net.

I settled so much into this routine that even when I was travelling over the 2-week long Christmas break, I’d be sticking to it. To this day, I hit the gym even when after a long night out.

Diet:

This, truly, is where it all happens. You CANNOT gain weight with all the training in the world, without eating like a cow. David said it right when he said you gotta be hitting upwards of 3000 calories a day.

I’ve become a little conscious of diet, but if you’re not, then go ahead and eat whatever the heck you want. Typical meals for a day while I was in the US:

1. 0515 (before PT) – Breakfast shake of GNC Mass Gainer

2. 0730 (after PT) – two eggs, two slices of bread with peanut butter

3. 0930 (arriving in class) – two slices of bread with peanut butter and jelly, a big handful of mixed nuts (pecans, almonds, walnuts)

4. 1130 (early lunch while the instructor is teaching) – a handful of rice, with two handfuls of meat (approximately 100-150g)

5. 1430 (second lunch) – a handful of rice, with two handfuls (approximately 100-150g) of meat. Essentially one big meal spread over two sittings

6. 1600 (before hitting the gym) – one Mass Gainer shake

7. 1730 (after gym) – a normal pure protein shake

8. 1930 (dinner) – I’d cook up a dinner usually consisting of at least 250g of meat (chicken, beef or pork), two bowls of rice, one big handful of vegetables.

9. 2300 (bedtime snack) – a normal pure protein shake

Essentially, the principle behind this all was to eat a fuck load (to this day, I carry a tin of sardines in olive oil in my bag – my emergency food supply), and train a fuck load. Train meaning resistance training, where your muscles would be taxed, broken, torn and fucked all day long. There never was a day when I wouldn’t be sore.

Concluding thoughts:

1. It wasn’t easy. Heck yea it wasn’t. It got tiring sometimes to eat. I forced myself to eat. It wasn’t easy cooking extra portions for dinner so I’d have stuff for lunch the next day. Still I did. Cos I didn’t wanna eat fast food from the base mall.

It wasn’t easy at the gym too. Imagine, all these US Army soldiers, US Marines, Rangers, etc, at the gym hitting the big weights. There I was, the sole asian dude hitting them baby weights. Imagine this – my buddy would press 110lb dumbbells, while I would use 30lb dumbbells. (to be fair, he’s quite a freak. for one morning PT, he did 5 sets of 20 pullups in strict form, no jerking, as part of a workout called the Murph. I think he completed the Murph in less than 30 mins. Google ‘crossfit Murph’ to have an idea how crazy that is)

It wasn’t easy waking up at 0530 to do the morning workouts. As international students, I could have chosen not to do it. There were students from other countries who opted out, sleeping in till 8 before heading to class. But I pushed through.

2. Cardio is your enemy (if you wanna gain weight). All along, i’ve been super active and sporty. I used to play sports 3x a week at fairly high intensities (competitive amateur level). I never gained weight though. Mostly cos I was doing so much fucking running.

Up till today, I do my best to avoid long runs. I never run distances of more than 3km. To upkeep my stamina, I do sprints and interval trainings. 4x100m, 8x50m and 12x20m trainings do wonders for your stamina. I regularly and comfortably outrun soldiers 10 years younger than me.

I’ll probably write another post on it, but long distance running is actually what contributes to visceral fat (belly fat in other words). A lot of fitness these days is based on what our caveman ancestors did (just like much of what David teaches is based on evolutionary psychology). In that school of thought, humans naturally have two modes – fight or flight. When you fight (moving heavy objects like your opponent), you get stronger and bigger. When you flight, your body goes into emergency survival mode – it begins storing whatever nutrients you give it as fat. This also explains why the difference in performance between male and female marathon runners is much smaller than the difference in performance between male and female sprinters (because long distance running requires using fat stores while short distance sprinting requires muscle).

Again, a story for another post, but I’ve essentially cut my carb consumption down to very low levels. After returning from the US, I found that my body fat percentage was a little too high, and i attributed much of it to my excessive carb consumption. After cutting down on carbs, I’ve managed to cut down on body fat without losing much muscle mass.

3. Tying it all up, I’d like to share my mantra with everyone. For me, the journey to transformation took a somewhat different route. I changed my body first. So my mantra goes – If I can change my body, I can change my mind. That’s why I’m here in Aura. To learn, to discover and to push the limits.

Remember what David taught – if you’re not uncomfortable, you’re not pushing your limits. Comfort is stasis, and stasis is death. On the physical part, I had difficulty driving my car out of the gym carpark on most days because of how sore I was. Was it tough? Yes, but I embraced it, because I knew I was going to come out of it stronger. I hope that comes somewhat close to what David says about harnessing your fears.

If you’re looking to change your body, think about what you’ve achieved so far in Aura. Most of you have achieved so much more than me (haven’t done the 10 Direct Approaches assignment yet). If you can conquer your mind, your body is nothing to you. You are so much stronger than me for going out there and doing those 10 Direct Approaches and facing the possibility of rejection, mockery, and whatever the f*ck women could throw at you. So yes, if you want to, I’m pretty sure you can conquer your body too.

To those who are looking to make a change in your life physically, I hope I’ve provided some useful information. Best of luck in your physical, emotional, spiritual and social transformation!

(hammered this out on the taxi home from class, so pardon me if it’s not well-written)

Yours,

KN

For you hard gainers and ectomorphs out there, here’s a good list of mass gainers that you can order in Singapore and have delivered to your doorstep the next day. There are a couple other such companies in Singapore, but this is the one I use. This is not an affiliate link; I get no commission from this. If you order from them, feel free to mention that you heard about them from me, though http://sg.fitlion.com/cat/mass-gainer  Disclaimer: I have not personally tried any of the mass gainers since I am a 36-year old mesomorph, so these mass gainers would likely result in too much fat gain. For you mesomorphs like myself, I recommend something like this instead: http://sg.fitlion.com/100-natural-oats-whey-3-lb

Genetically, I’m from Taiwan and Guangzhou, so I share those southern Chinese genes. But I was raised in Canada and the US, surrounded by mainly white people. So I had incentive as a youngster, especially since I wanted to play competitive sports, to hit the weights and bulk up, but it wasn’t until I got a fitness trainer at 30 that I learned what hard work really feels like at the gym. You can read more about my fitness journey up to the end of 2009 here: How to Get Fit in 3-Months  Since then, I’ve gained 7 kg (15 lbs) of mostly muscle and am aiming to gain another 9 kg (20 lbs) by the end of 2013. I highly recommend Beachbody’s Body Beast program as a series of quick (~30-40 min) but effective workouts.

Get it done. Get it handled.

Best, David

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In the video, he gives a few tips on how to stay cool under pressure. Enjoy!

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Well, on March 30-31, 2013, Christian will be in Singapore to offer a unique, special seminar on High Value Communication. This thing is going to be unbelievable, and I’d love for you to be there.

The last time Christian visited Singapore was almost 18 months ago, and we’re not sure when he will visit again. We will NOT be recording this event or turning it into a product. And there are no plans to run the seminar ever again. This is also Christian’s very first live training program in a year. So you will want to take advantage of this rare opportunity.

This event WILL sell out, so I encourage you to watch the short video Christian has made for you, read up on the details, and make your decision ASAP.

Learn more about it by clicking here.

Christian is one of the most experienced dating coaches in the world, a true veteran. I’m living proof that his teachings work.

In his seminar on High Value Communication, some of the lessons we’ll cover include…

>How to get someone to open up to you… FAST… and feel totally and deeply understood by you

>It takes years for some guys to figure out “what to say next,” but this shortcut will permanently help you “get it” within seconds… and it’ll be with you forever

>A simple, high-value technique that will make her feel that you’re mysteriously, dangerously sexy… the sort of man she NEEDS to experience

> High value people know how to make others work for their approval, and we’ve figured out how they do it. It’s SO simple that you’ll want to slap your head, yet NO ONE does it.

>We’ve coached a lot of guys, and we keep seeing the same thing that holds EVERY one of them back from an abundant sex life. But we’re going to “flip the switch” in your head on this one, and make sure you’re good to go the moment we reveal it.

… and a LOT more

I’ve met almost all the top dating coaches in the world personally, and without a doubt, Christian is the best of the best when it comes to communicating high value, which is normally ridiculously difficult to do, but he makes it look incredibly easy.

If you want women to be captivated, attracted, and drawn to you without having to cold approach them or risk making a fool of yourself, and you want to turn them on without anyone else in the room knowing what you’re up to… then learning from Christian is the best choice you could possibly make. He is the master at this. And he’s devoted an entire weekend to teaching this specialty of his.

Plus, I’ve convinced him to offer it at a much lower rate than he normally would.

Go watch his video and read about the details on that page. Christian is the real deal.

Special Seminar in Singapore by Christian Hudson

Best, David

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I was honoured to be invited to speak at the panel on “Love in a Time of Social Media” as part of the Social Media Week in Singapore. The theatre was packed full of reporters and media experts. It was a real pleasure speaking on this panel.

As part of the run-up to this event, I was invited to do some press, including a TV interview on the Valentine’s Day episode of AM Live! on Channel NewsAsia. Copyright laws prohibit me from posting the video, but here’s a screen shot for ya!

And here a few more pics of the actual panel. The other panelists were Professor Norman Li of SMU, Maddy Barber from Kiss 92 FM, Alexander Wallestam of GoBreakTheIce. And the host was Jeanne Tai, the features editor of Her World.

Cheers, David

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Happy new year to you and your loved ones!
Cheers, David

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We want to give you “5 Tips to make Every Day like Valentine’s Day”. And we want to give you an amazing opportunity TOMORROW- to save $1000 from our top course: the Total Transformation Program. We don’t just talk about helping you. We actually do something about it. $1000 off– should be reason enough to decide to do something, if you’ve been sitting on the fence about this.

You want to revolutionize your Dating Life.

We know how to do it.

So sign up tomorrow, and let’s get this started. Use the $1000 you saved to hit the clubs and go on dream dates with your dream girl. Ok?

Without further ado, here are the 5 Valentine’s Tips:

5. Be the Social Guy

In all my years of helping hundreds of Singaporean men achieve their dating goals, the number one problem Singaporean men repeatedly faced on their road to success was… Social Anxiety.

A skyrocketing heart rate, sudden shortness of breath, hands and knees shaking as if an earthquake just hit, and an educate and talkative Singaporean man suddenly goes completely blank.

All this from just attempting to approach an attractive woman for a simple conversation.

But the paralyzing fear of public humiliation is all that is in the mind of our poor guy. Being so self-conscious and caring so much about what complete strangers think is the number one problem plaguing Singaporean men when it comes to dating.

So what to do?

Be the Social Guy, not the Social Handicap.

Here’s how to do it the pain-free way:

Get in the habit of talking to new people all the time.

Make small talk with the cabdriver. Joke around with the receptionist at your office or the clerk at the 7-11. Commiserate over the weather with strangers waiting at the bus stop. Compliment fashionably dressed strangers or service staff in the stores you frequent. Give a stranger a dollar just because they look friendly and you want to brighten someone’s day a little. Learn the joy of making strangers laugh and putting a smile on the faces of people you’ve just met.

Become a social guy who likes meeting new and interesting people. Do it all the time. Make friends of people of all ages, races, and walks of life.

Work this into your daily routine: Start a one-minute chat with at least three new people every day for the next three months.

Every man who is successful with women is also very comfortable socializing with people in general. Once you get good at socializing as a whole, it will be a lot easier to approach and chat with women you’re attracted to naturally and effortlessly without feeling anxious or nervous.

4. Be Interesting and Interested

Quit sitting at home alone playing Wii. Having nothing interesting going on in life is one of the biggest factors holding people back from making new friends. Even when you do get into a conversation with a girl, you’ve got nothing to say and nothing to connect on.

Get some new hobbies. Do things you’ve been meaning to do for a long time but have never gotten around to doing. Travel to new countries. Learn how to play guitar. Take up a new sport. Get a fitness trainer or join a martial arts club. Pick up a new language. Learn how to cook delicious meals. Become interesting and interested.

Explore your passions. Live life to the fullest now. This one thing alone will make you exponentially more attractive to women.

3. Make Her Work for It.

People only value what they invest time and effort into. This is as true of beautiful women as it is of anything in life. If you’re bending over backwards for her, asking her out at every opportunity, and doing anything she wants, then she simply won’t respect you or value you. And any attraction you’ve built up will be gone.

So make her put in time and effort into starting and maintaining your relationship. If you’re like most guys, you do the opposite of this, so it might be a little unnatural for you at first.

You can start small.

In your conversations, get her to open up and talk as much as (if not more than) you do. Aim for a 50-50 balance. Don’t dominate the conversation, trying to impress her. Instead, get her working to impress you. The same applies to SMS or phone contact. Make sure she texts and phones you as much as (if not more than) you text and phone her.

Ask her to meet you on your side of town for the date while making sure she gets home safely at the end of the night. Let her treat you to coffee while you get the dessert.

Be a bit more elusive and unpredictable, which will keep her guessing and thinking about you. Get her to put in more time and effort into the interaction and relationship. The more she works for it, the more she will want it.

2. Don’t Be Desperate

Few things will turn off a woman of quality more than a man who reeks of desperation. The fastest way to scare off a beautiful woman is to go immediately into serious relationship mode and ask her to be your girlfriend after your first date, or to call her ten times a day, or to get too possessive and clingy.

Instead, chill out. Relax. Sit back, literally. Take it easy. Keep everything light, casual, and enjoyable.

As you start to get a busier dating life, and you begin to internalize the notion that the world has an abundance of potential partners for you, it will become easier and easier for you to have the right mindset and attitude. In the meantime, instead of acting desperate, act as if you have a wealth of dating options.

1. Go for It

Guys who have no courage turn off hot women. What women everywhere want is a confident man who goes after what he wants.

As soon as you see that the beautiful girl has noticed you, be brave and approach her immediately. Once you’ve established rapport and made an emotional connection, exchange contact info to keep in touch. Or better yet, arrange a date with her. When you’re wondering whether she’d like to kiss you, look her deeply and directly in her eyes, and make your move.

Don’t leave her hanging and disappointed that she’s not with a real man. Step up and go for it.

To Summarize:

1. Social Skills, and being truly outgoing.
2. Interests and Passions, and being truly remarkable as a person.
3. A deep understanding of interactions with a woman
4. Not being needy.
5. Having the guts to go for it.

These 5 tips correspond to 5 characteristics all our students acquire. This could be you. Sign up tomorrow for $1000 off. 

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We’ve been getting a few hundred likes on each of the first two tips, so that tells me you guys are really digging this stuff and looking forward to a memorable New Year’s. That’s awesome.

Friend, we’re here not just for New Year’s but for the rest of 2013. That’s why we’re giving our 1-year coaching plan a huuuuge discount ($1000 OFF!) on December 30. That’s a **one-day sale** only so if you’re planning to save a thousand bucks and make every day like New Year’s Eve, I hope you prepare for it. Visit this site on December 30 and go to this page: http://www.auradating.com/transformation

Remember, this $1000 discount off of the Total Transformation Program is only available for 24 hours on December 30.

If you go there now you’ll see everything you need to know about the program, BUT it’s got the original price there still. We’re slashing that on the 30th. Come back to the webpage then and be prepared:http://www.auradating.com/transformation

Speaking of preparation, this third tip is all about that.

Essential NYE Tip #3: Major Prep.

This third and last tip is a big one, and we’ll tackle it in two parts. But let me just tell you that all three of these tips- in summary is about preparation. In tip #1 we talked about switching on and preparing yourself mentally and emotionally. We told you to get your social muscles working, come into the club or party already having fun.

In both Tip 1 and Tip 2 we discussed the importance of being social from the get go, and building momentum from there. We told you that the Social Proof this creates prepares the girls and helps them form the correct opinion about you so that when you do approach them, they’ll be- prepped.

You see now that it’s all about the build-up. In your favorite movie or story you remember the climax, or the part with all the action… but that part wouldn’t be great at all if it weren’t for the build-up leading to it. I could talk for days about storylines and the psychological side of this thing we’re calling “build-up”, but for now I just want to introduce this concept to you.

That way- instead of just thinking about that perfect New Year’s Eve kiss, you’ll be thinking of the moments leading to it- and after it, and you’ll be totally ready the entire evening. Here are two ways to apply this idea of Prep.

First: Prep the Kiss with Touch

We said talk early and often. Guess what? The same goes for Touch. Touch early and often. You may not be a touchy guy, and you may not find it comfortable. But, my friend, you better start getting comfortable with the idea now.

Why is it important to touch early, and often? Because you won’t get to that kiss out of nowhere! It’s pretty creepy for her if you have your hands all to yourself the entire evening, and then suddenly you begin to go for that kiss out of the blue. No. It doesn’t play out that way. You have to lead up to it.

Did she say something you like? Touch her on the elbow. Introducing her to someone? Put your arm around her and gently bring her closer to that person. Even if it’s just high-fives at first, it’s ok. Platonic touching throughout the night is fine, as long as you break the Touch Barrier early.

It will be crowded and if you are walking around, be the gentleman and lead her. You can walk by her side and guide her gently with a hand on her back, or on her waist (or on her hip- depending on how you’ve been doing). Or you can walk ahead of her, pushing the crowd and holding her by the hand. Find some ways in your conversation to make “excuses” to touch her.

Briefly touch her chin, her hair, her knee, make her sit on your lap, etc… Start with little things and build up from there (we have entire courses on this subject of Physical Escalation and cover it very thoroughly with our students enrolled in the 1-year program). The point is, you need to prep her.

Remember: touch is not something she’s doing for you. You’re doing it for her. See your touch as something valuable and reward her with it. If she shows you signs of awkwardness, pull back a little and withdraw your attention briefly. But start again with light touching. If you’re comfortable with touching her and act like it, she will respond in the same way.

Second: Prep the After-Party

The other way you need to be prepared on NYE is in the area of logistics. If you do get to that first kiss, what then? You can’t ask her what she wants to do, and you can’t waste time trying to pluck that idea out of thin air.

Be the man with a plan. In other words, plan the after-party. Where will you take her? Will you have a car or mode of transport? It’s New Year’s! Expect traffic. Don’t let simple traffic or the lack of a cab ruin the night for you! If you want to bring her to a hotel, did you book it already?

I cannot tell you how many stories I’ve heard of a perfect evening gone wrong because of simple logistics. Iron it out thoroughly. If she has some friends, make sure the after party can accomodate them, but still have a plan for a more private place you can bring her to.

Here’s one last tip. If you do get to that point where you are going to take her home, give her a nice excuse to tell her friends. “I’m going to another party with (your name)”, is much easier than “ (your name) is taking me home”.

Another thing you can do is find an excuse to stop by your house. Tell her you need to pick up something and many times this does become the last destination. It’s all about being a gentleman- which means never putting her in an embarrassing situation. People call this being smooth, but really, it’s being considerate. Of course, it does help you out too.

To end…

So that’s it for your three tips, and I hope this does prepare you well for a memorable New Year’s Eve. You’ll steamroll into 2013 with a lot of momentum in your dating life.

Again, if this is something you feel we can help you more with, we would definitely love to share what we know. We’ve helped thousands of men in Singapore and around the world experience life-changing transformation in their dating lives, their social lives in general, and in overall self-development. We don’t teach men to pretend. We help them to become.

If $1000 off is another incentive to help you make up your mind, then I hope you take advantage of this tomorrow.

For one day only: December 30, 2012- we will offer a $1000 discount off of the Total Transformation 1-Year Coaching Program. Visit this link Tomorrow: http://www.auradating.com/transformation

See you on the other side.

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Essential NYE Tip #2: Social Proof.

What is Social Proof and why does it matter? Let me tell you something. You probably think you’re the only one in that place scoping the room for somebody. Or maybe you think only guys do it. You’re wrong. Girls do it too, and in many ways they’re much better than us at doing it! In a split second, they can make a decision about you, while they were checking you out without your knowing it. And if you’re going to be at a party or club for a few hours, you can be sure that every girl there has already formed their opinion about you before the clock strikes 12.

This is why Social Proof matters. If you do it right… the rest of your night will be much much easier (funner!). If you neglect it, you’re in for an uphill battle. The good news is that it’s something you can do right in the first 20 minutes. Let me break it down for you simply: Social proof is people seeing that other people like you. That’s all it is.

If you’re surrounded by a group of people laughing and smiling while you’re talking, if pretty girls are around you looking like they’re having a lot of fun, that is a message sent to everyone in that place (note: every girl) that you’re someone of high social value. And when you approach someone who perceives you that way- it will be so much easier.

So here are a few things you can do:

1. Be Social Immediately. With ANYONE. Remember yesterday’s tip? Chat. Early and Often. Say hello to everyone in the room. Act like you own the place and you’re welcoming people in your club. You know how some people act like they own the place wherever they go? Be that guy!

2. Let them see your face. So you’ve found a group of people you can engage. You’re genuinely interested in them and that’s making them genuinely interested in you. The conversation is flowing, they’re all smiling, you make them laugh and have fun. Don’t waste this! While this is all happening- make sure you’re facing the rest of the room and everyone can see YOU in the middle of that group/crowd/table. Even if you’re just chatting with one person- put a smile on your face, face the rest of the room, you’re on camera. The snapshot that the ladies make in their minds of you- it will stick, and you will thank me later for this.

3. Photos. Even more, take photos of you with your (new) friends using flash, and other girls will notice and be curious.

Guys, remember this isn’t about faking it. You’re not posing and pretending that you’re all that. You ARE- all that. And you need to believe it, or else this is kind of pointless. Act like it, and people will respond accordingly. You’re not using people to look cool. You’re finding people you can contribute FUN to. Your job description this New Year’s Eve- is to help others have fun. Isn’t that great? Tell yourself “I’m the fun guy. I’m the party. I can make people enjoy more. I will make them smile, laugh, party hard, and remember this night.” I never said pretend. What I’m saying is have fun, make others have fun, and just be seen by the other ladies in the room. It will make it a ton easier to open them later. And that’s how to leave an impression.

Got it? Tomorrow is the third and last tip. Stay tuned.

About the Promo:

I told you this yesterday, but on the 30th we’re giving you guys another chance to save $1000 on our top course: the Total Transformation Program. All this stuff we’re teaching you for NYE, we get to dive into more deeply, and for the rest of the year. You can literally have New Year’s on any given night. Stay tuned for Dec 30.

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Here’s tip #1: Switch it ON.

First of all…. you’re going out.. right? I always tell my students this… get the heck out! It’s great that you’re reading this. But reading this and not going out isn’t going to do anything for you. Ok? Now let’s continue….

More experienced guys are “always on”. But if you’re just getting started, you have to switch on. What do I mean?  It’s totally normal and not lame to get yourself in the right frame of mind when you’re just starting out. In fact it’s crucial.

Have you ever found yourself 3 hours into your night at a club, not knowing who to talk to, what to talk about, what to say? That’s a night that never got started. 3 hours spent looking lost. A night where you’re clutching your beer like it’s your only friend, and the moment it runs out, you frantically run to the bar so you don’t look idle. Then you continue to make rounds through the club, “scoping the place” never really making any connections, any new friends, or having any real fun. Your best conversations happened in your mind, and a lot of it sounded like struggling. In other words- getting a girl is totally out of the question. Now how did this evening begin? It began by entering the place switched OFF.

Here’s how to “switch on”.

1. Don’t overbuild it.
   Yes we are telling you NYE is an amazing chance to meet someone. But don’t go in there saying creepy things like, “I’m gonna pick up a girl.” No. You’re going in there to have a ton of fun and to party like it’s the last day of the year! Don’t make promises to yourself like, “No matter what, I will make sure I come home with someone.” Don’t let your heart pound, and let the primitive parts of our brain have a reason to be nervous. In many ways it’s just another night.. to party! Don’t be all needy, or attached to a certain outcome. Act like you don’t give a s**t. That’s right. Why? Because you rock. Now believe it.
2. Chat Early and Often.
   Get out there and just start chatting. Chat with anyone. Chat as quickly as you can. And, ideally, do this before you arrive at the venue. Chat with girls, guys, “cool people” and “everyone else.” This allows the social parts of your brain to start firing. You’re settling in, you’re getting comfortable, and this is VERY important if you want the rest of the night to play out well. It’s also great for Social Proof, but that’s for the next blog post.

Do not scope the place. Don’t walk around aimlessly with your drink. Have fun IMMEDIATELY! Don’t run to the restroom. Don’t be looking for pretty girls. Don’t do anything except have fun now. The moment you step into the place your only job is to have fun. It’s New Year’s Eve and the party has just arrived-YOU.

If you’re set on one thing- having fun, and making others have fun- you’re switched ON, and you’re on your way.

Stay tuned for TIP #2.

Oh, one more thing…

This December 30 we are gonna have another one-day sale. We did that for Christmas and if you missed it, here’s your last chance to save $1000. Stay tuned for that.

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